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Cancer in Love

By: Libby Pelham BA - Updated: 6 Aug 2017 | comments*Discuss
Cancer Compatibility Love Cancer Men

Whether you are a Cancer (June 22nd-July 23rd) looking for love or a person in love with a Cancer, knowing what Cancers want and need from a relationship is very important. Certain signs are more compatible with other signs, but even the less compatible signs can work on their relationship if they know what the problem areas may be.

Cancer Women

A Cancer woman is a composite of many things. She can be flirtatious, passionate, and feminine. At the same time, she can be shy, sweet, and nurturing. If you are a man in love with a Cancerian woman, you should know that trust is very important to her. The water signs (Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces) all value trust and therefore may be reluctant to give their hearts away easily. She will subtly let you know she is interested, so look for small clues or you may miss your opportunity to make a move. Once you win her love, you will find she is a true romantic and will show you total devotion. She loves to reminisce by pouring over old love letters, so make sure you send her plenty to keep her happy.

Cancer women are emotional and extremely vulnerable to both praise and criticism, so try to avoid criticising her. Praise will work wonders, but only if it is warranted. Cancerian women can tell whether a compliment is sincere or not. Try to show the Cancer woman your sensitive side as they themselves are very sensitive. Discuss problems that are troubling you and your Cancerian woman will open up to not only show you empathy but also offer genuinely constructive advice.

Cancer Men

Just like the Cancer woman, the Cancerian man also likes to take the sly route to romance. But, he is also inclined to fall in love quickly, as he too is a romantic. Whereas Cancerian women like to reminisce over love letters, the Cancer man would rather let his imagination run wild with scenes from the past or daydream about the future. Because Cancers are so sensitive, they are usually great communicators and love to talk about their feelings. He expects his woman to be faithful and may show signs of jealousy. One good woman is enough for him and when he finds her, he will focus all his affections on her. He is attentive and will probably be very generous with gifts such as flowers, chocolates, and wine.

Cancer men are happiest when they find women who want to share their dreams with them. While your Cancer man may be cautious about a commitment, also know that the longer he waits to make a commitment, the less likely he is to follow through with it. He may focus on a hurtful incident that happened some time back (as Cancers have great memories) and the emotions from that memory and lack of trust caused by it may prevent him from carrying the relationship further.

The Perfect Date

What is a good date for a Cancer? Tickets to the theatre, an art gallery, or some other type of cultural event are a great start. Cancers also love music, so a concert or opera is also an excellent choice. But don't rule out a romantic, candlelit dinner for two. Cancers also tend to be homebodies, so to suggest renting a video and getting takeout is also acceptable.

Compatible Signs

Which signs are compatible with Cancers? Taurus is an excellent match with a Cancer as they are opposite ends of the spectrum. Taurus tends to be possessive, but Cancers enjoy the attention. While a Taurus likes to be catered to, a Cancer are more than happy to do the catering when in love.

For similar reasons, Cancers and Virgos are good matches. Cancers tend to be dependent and Virgos like to be protective. While Cancers can be emotional, Virgos can calm that with their emotional steadiness. Cancers and Scorpios may find they share an intense and passionate intimacy. The two signs can sense what pleases each other, so the relationship will have depth to it as well.

Pisces and Cancers will also make an affectionate couple. Both signs are emotional, devoted and sensitive to each other's needs.

Incompatible Signs

A Cancer should avoid relationships with Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, and other Cancers. Regardless of what sign you are, you may be able to have a committed, loving relationship with a Cancer if you keep a few things in mind:
  • Cancers are one of the most sensitive signs
  • They are very loyal and seek the same from mates
  • They are very sentimental
  • They have great memories
  • They are very nurturing

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Wow Rose, I'd love to know whether you eventually get together and how it goes? There's a Cancer I've got my eye on and I'm really not sure whether to take it further or not.
DressedCrab - 7-Aug-17 @ 10:26 AM
I am a Cancer female. Recently took a liking to a male Cancer. We are almost a split image. Almost all our likes an dislikes are similar. Hes easy to talk to. Weve never dated a Cancer an decided we both wanted to try ..in the future maybe..right now getting to know ourselves an eachother has been a fun experience. Never thought Id meet someone so similar an compatible.
Rose - 6-Aug-17 @ 3:50 AM
I'm a cancer woman and most of what I read is true but I have both the male and the femaletraits everystrongly. And I don't side step I take things straight on,everythingelse is me I've been married for 36 yrs to aLibra and we have had a lot of fights but I love him. And yes our memories are good and we get over things and people who hurt us but, we never forget and if you lose our trust or break our hearts it's something we never get over.and we never forget.
Colly - 23-May-17 @ 10:51 PM
I am a Gemini woman and I'm in love with a cancerian man. the relationship seems to be working fine. we are so much into each other. I believe no matter ur sign, ur relationship cab still work out.
portable - 16-May-17 @ 3:20 PM
My man is a cancer,I'm Scorpio when we first met I was going through some things like divorce and drinking a lot.After two years in the relationship he can't get over something that was in the past so he left me.How can I get him back?
Cookie - 1-May-17 @ 3:00 PM
I'm in love with a Cancer (male). It seems as if he is afraid love me. I just don't understand.
Princess - 2-Apr-17 @ 12:11 PM
I am a Virgo women.I Had to step out of a relationship with a cancer man One minute he loved me then he would put me down .I found once a cancer man gets with you he tends to be silent to himself.I loved me more so I let him go.I barely talk to him.What is crazy Joe Tells his family and friends I am with him and we haven't had any kissing or anything for over five months.I feel best when I am away from him Because I find the joys in life without him and I no longer get put down I dream of finding love one day I am honest and loyal it was too bad my x cancer couldn't be honest or loyal.Now I know why any relationship he got into she ran
JJ - 16-Mar-17 @ 9:19 AM
Im a Scorpio man and I'm absolutley enfatuated by a cancer woman. She is a mystery on itself and I want to find out more.
Joesomebody - 13-Mar-17 @ 4:09 AM
I am a cancer women and my husband is aries.I love him very much.It really works
MINI - 19-Feb-17 @ 1:35 PM
I am aries going to be 68 on march 26.i met a 29 year old cancer guy who is in love with me..i think i'm falling for him too..any thoughts?
GG - 18-Jan-17 @ 5:07 PM
I love being a Cancer,Not in a relationship at this time. But hope to be in the future. I know i can be very moody but I am also a very kind caring loving person.Not perfect but good as a caregiver it's my gift.
D - 24-Dec-16 @ 3:24 AM
I am a woman Cancer. It's been many years since I've been in love and it's because the man I gave my all to broke my heart. Now, I am afraid to commit myself to anyone for fear that it will happen again. I don't want to continue to be single nor do I want to be hurt again. When I love, I love very, very hard and very, very deep. I am overflowing with love and I need to be able to share it with a man who is not afraid to be loved. I am at a loss. What shall I do?
love - 18-Dec-16 @ 8:28 PM
I am a Cancerian woman,I met and fell in love with a young Aries,it was all good.But the fights became something else,we always arguing,I ask him about his promotion at work,He got mad and told me to my face that he was tired of me.I really dunno what went wrong.We broke up.But I still love him.It's been a month now,he hasn't called or texted.I love him still.I dunno,should I call him???
Emy - 30-Nov-16 @ 6:05 PM
I'm a cancerian, fell in love with one mad sagittarius. It just didn't work out, Sagittarius are wicked, selfish, unreasonable, unfaithful, in fact i regret ever knowing him.
Fati - 1-Oct-16 @ 9:04 AM
Im a cancerian and so is my man who im in love with so is that an advantage or an disadvantage relationship wise? until now we are doing really well :) I wanna a know about a a cancer-cancer love
anne - 14-Aug-16 @ 7:51 AM
This thing is really pretty accurate. It fits almost to a tee.
Bigcat54 - 27-Jun-16 @ 4:35 AM
I'm a Virgo guy in love with this cancer woman who drives me crazy,her love and intimacy is one of undoubtedly the best,..despite all these she sometimes go cold and cut me out of her life then I try so hard to call back to her life,all these is straining but I try to make it work just like a virgoans we don't quit...but why do cancerian act like these???I'm confused reading this book cause I always end up nowhere.
Kosgei - 25-May-16 @ 2:15 AM
The compatibility and incompatibility is a bunch of BS to me, because I'm dating a Cancer and have before in the past, and when I'm with him, I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'm a Libra, mind you. Also, they say that Aquarians and Taurueans are no good together, but my grandma and grandpa are just that and have been together since high school. I think you should study more on the signs, because Libra's and Cancer's are very much alike and we get along great.
makaylaw - 10-Jan-16 @ 8:47 PM
thanks for some comments here... it's giving me an insight what kind of lover is the cancer man... so far i need to guard my self in order to protect my self from their deceiving sweet coated words!
scorpion - 24-Jul-15 @ 8:46 AM
Sagittarius here. My best friend is cancerian. Always looks for approval, a bit introverted, not too faithful, and he can be quick to lie. But he's the sweetest lover, and a real gentleman as well as a headache. Not all cancerians are bad. Accept his/her flaws because you want to. If you don't then find someone who suits your needs. Don't bag on the rest because you've had a bad experience. My friend is sensual and sentimental, very open hearted yet closed off, dominant but denpendant at the same time. He will give and he will take. Flaws come with the territory. No one is perfect so try to comprehend that and just accept it as it is. Stay positive, children. Life would be a smoother ride if you weren't concentrating on the bumps and potholes ;)
HappyHunting - 23-May-15 @ 2:42 PM
Ahaha... i Have read those coments above... i am a Cancer Woman.. yeah maybe Sometimes Cancer can drive you crazy, cause they are emotional, moody, sensitive, and clingy. But they always Give a full love to every person who near them... its doestn meant that they're a good cheater, or expect the Same feed back. Cause we just Cancer. And we live with and an idea of love. So we just craving For love.. crave to recieving Deep love from others. Like we do For them... we good in giving love.. so Thats Why we keep giving it.. but the hardest part is recieving love.
cyril - 21-May-15 @ 7:15 AM
Cancer men are idiots. I invariably end up screaming at them in a way I rarely do with anyone else (except perhaps Sagittarius). Unfortunately if you have been lumped together with them at work it is very difficult to avoid, but they - and some Cancer women, as it happens - end up filling the atmosphere with their noxiousness. They are the original frenemies, so don't take it too seriously when they sidle up to you just in order to get one more person on side. They're not doing it in order to be nice to you. My ex boss's wife now has cancer and I am not surprised after all his playing around. Everyone who came into contact with that man was poisoned by him/ ended up drinking even if they didn't before.
Kari - 26-Dec-14 @ 7:34 AM
All cancerians are good lovers!
CancerCanDo - 29-Oct-14 @ 10:58 AM
cancerian28/6/1979 (premature)
tinkoo - 23-Sep-14 @ 3:13 PM
Libra woman here! One cancer man was enuff for me! Way jealous for my fun loving self. Even got weird wen I wore eye shadow saying I was doing it to flirt! He'd pout wen going anywhere men were even going on walks! He started stealing every joy I had so adios and never again! So yea thus article is right on the point that live a and needy cancer don't mix! Plus he was a cheater to top it off. Not worth all the work!
libra1021 - 21-Sep-14 @ 8:56 PM
Entirely agree with Vicky.We must have been dsting the same guys! Everything you say is correct. They're playing a game - telling you exactly what they think you want to hear - masters at that. Also be warned every cancer male I know has or is cheating on his partner.
born free - 21-Aug-14 @ 9:04 PM
Firstly I totally disagree that cancers are loyal or faithful I've dated a string of cancer man and they have either cheated on me or just got up and left with no explanation. And cancer females well the first word that comes to mind is jealous and then extra clingy to there men. The cancer man is a total contradiction I'm aqua and hate that. They will tell you how you feel when really there trying to explain how they feel. Work that one out!! Every time you meet them they are a different person going from funny to dark from hot to cold from loving to almost hating you. All the cancer men I've met have told me there life story's straight away and then clammed up and become really distance. From sending messages like good morning beautiful to good night beautiful which is the sweetest thing in the world. To ignoring me and acting like I'm dead. Even though I was there best ever friend. There dominant which I need being an out going aqua lady. But to the point where they want to know your every where about who your talking to. Taking over all that you do right from how you spread a PEICE of bread. At first this is cute thenit gets dam right annoying!! I soon worked out that it's not cause they are helpful or that they care it'sbecause there complete and uttercontrol freaks.Again I'm aqua and cannot be controlled unless it's in the bedroom one of the qualities I like about them. Don't get me wrong there the sweetest of all the signs. They will open the door for you. Keep you warm. Spend money on you tell you your beautiful a million times a day. Then totally ignore you. They are hurtful with there actions but then the min you hurt them they go inside there pathetic little shell and cry like the little boys they are.but expect you to forgive and forget. When they hurt you. They have this annoying arrogance about them as well which for me is no good. I like understated and reserved it's all part of the chase for me. And the magic is quickly gone when there telling me how great they are at all they do and then dig for reassurance and compliments. Wtf!!!!!!!! Being an aqua lady I don't ask anyone's reassurance I do what I gotta do. Don't like it lump it. They also lie all the time about the smallest of things. Again aqua being the most honest loyal sign there is with out a doubt I cannot stand that. Tell the truth cancer people if you know how!!. I don't pick these men they pick me and I must say I'm a glutton for punishment cause I always think that the next one will be different. And the sweetness does go to my aqua head.bottom line to anyone wanting an honest and lasting relationship where you are not smashing your head against a brick wall stay away from these people. These strange double standard ways will drive you insane. And make you wish you had never bothered.
Vicky12 - 2-Mar-14 @ 1:51 PM
I like Cancer females they are so caring, and supportive and most of all cute. I’m a Taurus male if any of you Cancer females are on Facebook add me as a friend I will accept all who request to be my friend my name on there is “Deep Voice Taurus”
DEEP VOICE TAURUS - 18-Oct-13 @ 2:29 AM
hellorod - 25-Mar-13 @ 11:35 PM
One day I would love to fall in love with someone that I can be with for the rest of my life, I been single most of my life but it doesnt mean I'm not experienced. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to be a loner one day but then again sometimes I feel like maybe I will find someone that I can love and be with forver without cheating, just being honest with eacho ther, and being able to be comfortable with each other. I want that in my life I dont want to deal with drama I just want to have a good healthy relationship with someone whithout any arguements.
Kim - 22-Feb-13 @ 12:50 PM
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